What I am going to narrate is another real incidence, which sounds very amusing, but certainly there is a great food for thought.
One of my best friends, Anand, called me up day before yesterday after a long time, to inform me that he had liked a girl, and even his family liked her, and everything would be settled down in a month, and marriage would be in December. He had come back from US for a holiday and this surprising development happened. This came as a great surprise for me because this guy never liked the company of girls and always used to tell us that he would never marry for any cost. There were many incidences in our college days when he ran away from some opportunities because he had work with girls! Like anchoring in a college function or some performance like a duet song.
First of all I could not believe his tone when he told me this. He sounded perfectly happy. So naturally I conveyed my heartily condolences to him, and wished all the very best time in the remaining time of freedom J.
Today I was waiting for his call, as he was supposed to call me to inform the dates of the engagement and marriage. But I did not get any call from him. I thought the guy might be having a long list of people to inform, and thought give him a call myself. When I did so, I was expecting the same happier and exited tone of a boy about to get married. But it was a diametrically opposite one. First he took some time in some other things. Then finally when I rounded him on this, he gave me shocking news. His proposal was rejected by the girl’s family.
Anand comes from a very rich and yet a very generous family. His parents are so well cultured, respected in the whole town. His father is a well known surgeon in Bijapur, and his mother a devoted house wife. They are totally against all the social evils like dowry. For his sisters they never gave any dowry nor were they going to get for Anand.
The very next day both families were sitting together for further discussion, to fix a date and all. As Anand said the meeting did not last for more than 20 mins. The first topic the girl’s family raised was dowry. Anand’s father, clearly denied dowry in any form. This for anyone of us is a reason to be happy and respect such a person. But surprisingly for the girl’s family, it was not. Anand said they suddenly started looking into each other’s face and fell silent completely for a while. And they asked for some time to discuss something within their family, and went out. After half an hour the mediator for this proposed marriage returned, without anyone from girl’s family. He told Anand and his family that they are not interested in this relation!
The reason…..they thought that if Anand and his family are not demanding any dowry, then there must be something wrong with Anand or his family!!!!
You would not believe, but it is the truth. I did not know whether to laugh at those stupid people or cry for Anand.
Have the social evils left another effect on our society, that we can not realize the truly human values of a person?
Or is it that social evils have become so common that if someone is denying them, opposing them, and is keen to be a living personality outside them, is perceived to be abnormal?
Or is it just a suspicion of the human mind that always perceives that if there is something good, it is veiling evil behind it? Why are we generalizing the same on everyone?
Now, with such an incidence, if Anad’s father changes his mind? And asks for dowry next time? Offcourse he wont do it. But such incidences do have a potential to change the little humanity we have in the society.
Probably here there is a need to run a campaign against dowry in a different way.
What do you think?
Friday, July 18, 2008
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Quote for you specially!!!!!
I was checking out Next Future e-Magazine from Sri Aurobindo Society today, and after going through it, i just went to SAS Home Page to see if there is any new thing up for me.
http://www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in
There is a section "Online Help". Initially i thought ke it is somethign like if we post our queries, some experts will answer to us. Interested, i clicked the link, and following page opened for me:
http://www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in/quotes.htm
What's here is........If you click on a button, a random quote from the complete works of The Mother and Sri Aurobindo is loaded, very similar to what any follower of The Mother and Sri Aurobindo does, when he or she is in a crisis situation. Just open any page of any book like Savitri, Synthesis of Yoga, or Life Divine, or any book, after praying in Them, and gets the solution for the problem! It has worked many times for me. That's how Their guidance works!
That's what the page states for you....
All of us find that often we are confronted with a problem or a situation where we do not know what to do. It has been the experience of many of us that, at such times, we took a book of Sri Aurobindo or the Mother, like Savitri, The Synthesis of Yoga, concentrated quietly and asked for guidance, help or an answer and opened the book at random. There we found exactly the answer we were seeking, as if it had been written just for us.
To provide a similar facility through the internet, we have here a large collection of quotations from Sri Aurobindo and the Mother. If we can do the same thing as with a book, with quiet concentration, with aspiration, with faith and then click the button below, we believe that just the right quote which contains the right answer for each one of us will come on the screen.
what i got for myself was.....
If you want to do something well, whatever it may be, any kind of work, the least thing, play a game, write a book, do painting or music or run a race, anything at all, if you want to do it well, you must become what you are doing and not remain a small person looking at himself doing it; for if one looks at oneself acting, one is... one is still in complicity with the ego. If, in oneself, one succeeds in becoming what one does, it is a great progress. In the least little details, one must learn this. Take a very amusing instance: you want to fill a bottle from another bottle; you concentrate (you may try it as a discipline, as a gymnastic); well, as long as you are the bottle to be filled, the bottle from which one pours, and the movement of pouring, as long as you are only this, all goes well. But if unfortunately you think at a given moment: "Ah! It is getting on well, I am managing well", the next minute it spills over! It is the same for everything, for everything. That is why work is a good means of discipline, for if you want to do the work properly, you must become the work instead of being someone who works, otherwise you will never do it well. If you remain "someone who works" and, besides, if your thoughts go vagabonding, then you may be sure that if you are handling fragile things they will break, if you are cooking, you will burn something, or if you are playing a game, you will miss all the balls! It is here, in this, that work is a great discipline. For if truly you want to do it well, this is the only way of doing it.
- The Mother [CWMCE, 4:363-64]
It may take a min to load, but when it does....... it's for you!!!
http://www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in
There is a section "Online Help". Initially i thought ke it is somethign like if we post our queries, some experts will answer to us. Interested, i clicked the link, and following page opened for me:
http://www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in/quotes.htm
What's here is........If you click on a button, a random quote from the complete works of The Mother and Sri Aurobindo is loaded, very similar to what any follower of The Mother and Sri Aurobindo does, when he or she is in a crisis situation. Just open any page of any book like Savitri, Synthesis of Yoga, or Life Divine, or any book, after praying in Them, and gets the solution for the problem! It has worked many times for me. That's how Their guidance works!
That's what the page states for you....
All of us find that often we are confronted with a problem or a situation where we do not know what to do. It has been the experience of many of us that, at such times, we took a book of Sri Aurobindo or the Mother, like Savitri, The Synthesis of Yoga, concentrated quietly and asked for guidance, help or an answer and opened the book at random. There we found exactly the answer we were seeking, as if it had been written just for us.
To provide a similar facility through the internet, we have here a large collection of quotations from Sri Aurobindo and the Mother. If we can do the same thing as with a book, with quiet concentration, with aspiration, with faith and then click the button below, we believe that just the right quote which contains the right answer for each one of us will come on the screen.
what i got for myself was.....
If you want to do something well, whatever it may be, any kind of work, the least thing, play a game, write a book, do painting or music or run a race, anything at all, if you want to do it well, you must become what you are doing and not remain a small person looking at himself doing it; for if one looks at oneself acting, one is... one is still in complicity with the ego. If, in oneself, one succeeds in becoming what one does, it is a great progress. In the least little details, one must learn this. Take a very amusing instance: you want to fill a bottle from another bottle; you concentrate (you may try it as a discipline, as a gymnastic); well, as long as you are the bottle to be filled, the bottle from which one pours, and the movement of pouring, as long as you are only this, all goes well. But if unfortunately you think at a given moment: "Ah! It is getting on well, I am managing well", the next minute it spills over! It is the same for everything, for everything. That is why work is a good means of discipline, for if you want to do the work properly, you must become the work instead of being someone who works, otherwise you will never do it well. If you remain "someone who works" and, besides, if your thoughts go vagabonding, then you may be sure that if you are handling fragile things they will break, if you are cooking, you will burn something, or if you are playing a game, you will miss all the balls! It is here, in this, that work is a great discipline. For if truly you want to do it well, this is the only way of doing it.
- The Mother [CWMCE, 4:363-64]
It may take a min to load, but when it does....... it's for you!!!
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
I am beginning as a mobile photographer......
1. Private busses in my area will teach you anotomy while you travel!!!!!
2. Is this really a women special bus?
3. How long do they have to wait for the bus?
4. What is so funny here?.... if Gundya(my best friend in pic) does not know that i took this pic while he was drowsy in a bus and now get to see it here.......
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